25 October 2012 23 Comments

Do You Have A Love Addiction?

Do you get anxious or depressed when you are not with your loved one? Do you think about your partner incessantly when you are away from them or fantasize about reconnecting with them as soon as you leave? Do you feel high when you’re with them? These are all signs that you have a love addiction. Oddly enough, love usually has nothing to do with these relationships but because partners feel desperate without each other, they assume that this means they are in love. Far from it. In a healthy love relationship, you enjoy each other but also have other relationships — with yourself, your work friends, your hobbies and your friends. You may love being with your partner but it does not give you a buzz when you see them nor do you feel desperate without them. If you have a love addiction, you will have to go through a withdrawal period from this person, if you wish to feel better. This is best done with a therapist who specializes in relationships. And you will need a support system of friends, family or maybe even a support group. You will have withdrawal symptoms like sadness, anger, anxiety and depression, After all, this person was distracting you from feeling your feelings. But don’t be discouraged. You CAN decide to quit being in pain. Just remember, you are not alone even though you might feel terribly lonely without your partner. Please reach out to someone who can guide you through your break up. You really can’t do this by yourself. And remember, a healthy relationship lifts you and an addictive relationship makes you sad, lonely and angry. If you found this helpful, please e.mail me at: nanlcsw@gmail.com to set up an appointment or to ask a question. I am happy to help you through. Feel free to offer my article to others. I do this as a free service to promote relational healing.